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Whips, chains, collars, gags, blindfolds, handcuffs, knives… My eyes roam the soundproof room in which we are enclosed. The subject of our conversation is BDSM Bondage, Domination, Sadism, and Masochisma discipline that includes a wide variety of consensual power-exchange activities suggested by the various implements on display.

I am talking with Rogers in a dungeon beneath a cabin in Salinas, California. The burly year-old has one hand on the bar i like bdsm a jail cell. People are very surprised when they find out who we really are. The American Psychiatric Association has its own definition. While conventional psychotherapists still debate the ethics of hugging their patients, Rogers and Thole have pioneered a form of intensive therapy that incorporates consensual BDSM activities into their sessions with clients. The objective is to activate repressed emotions in order to process them in a safe and supportive environment.

For the next 48 i like bdsm, we will not leave this cabin. A study from the Netherlands found a greater prevalence of positive psychological traits in BDSM practitioners than in the general public. The practitioners were less neurotic, more extraverted, more open to new experiences, more conscientious, less rejection sensitive, and had higher subjective well-being.

A subsequent U. According to Brad Sagarin, the effects can be even more profound. The submissive seems to enter a different altered state of consciousness that the BDSM community refers to as sub-space— a pleasurable and timeless, almost floating feeling. The feeling of expansive unity that Sagarin describes is regarded as the ature trait of a mystical experience.

Fellow BDSM researcher Bert Cutler noted the prominent role of physically-induced mystical states in spiritual and healing rituals across cultures and throughout history. Cutler cited Native American body suspension, ecstatic Sufi dance, and acts of extreme skin piercing practiced by certain Hindu and Buddhist sects. Back in Salinas, in the dungeon, Rogers recalled his own process of discovery. As a kid we learned all these stories about the martyrs of our faith who were killed in horrible ways—burned or skinned alive.

And, all the stories are about the ecstasy that they experienced in that process of ing God. The stairs led to a dungeon where a naked woman was strapped to a table with a tray of torture implements beside her. I was so turned on by it. Fantasies like these are commonplace. As a recent study reveals, over sixty percent of men and women have desires to dominate or be dominated.

Homicidal ideation and other antisocial fantasies are also exceedingly normal. Given free reign, our aggressive drives have produced a human history of spectacular violence. Yet, as Rogers insists, the drives themselves are neither good nor bad.

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If conscientiously directed with the consent of others, even our darkest impulses can be profoundly meaningful. Unacknowledged however, they are often a constant source of shame, anxiety, and sublimation. Once she became conscious of her needs however, she was finally able to fulfill them inside the structure of a healthy relationship.

You know that thing you always wanted to do as a kid, but you never could? Now you can do it. Play therapy has traditionally focused on children, but it can be just as effective in older populations. Its promotion of spontaneity provides a unique means of bypassing sophisticated adult defense mechanisms. But, underneath all that logic is sensation, and that's the only way I can really track who I am. I am most myself when I don't know what I'm about to say next—when I surprise myself. When I know what I'm going to say, it's because I rehearsed it, and some part of me is probably hiding something.

Prior to our session, Rogers and Thole had conducted a series of phone interviews with me, exploring my history and the personal issues I wanted to address. Though the pair are not clinical psychologists, their intake process is similar to those of mainstream therapists. One notable departure was an invitation to look for sadomasochistic themes in my own life. The couple believe that i like bdsm human interactions occur within the framework of a dominance hierarchy. I also have a tendency to be reflexively confrontational when faced with disrespect.

In other ways, I can be an abject masochist—mentally punishing myself for miscalculations or missed opportunities. Dominating an entire city block, the century-old concrete fortress is the current headquarters of Kink.

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I was met at the gate by Stefanos Tiziano, the company ringmaster. When asked about the therapeutic benefits of BDSM, the military veteran spoke of a friend—a female victim of sexual assault who found closure reenacting similar scenarios with her consent.

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According to Tiziano, the practice is common. The feeling of agency that arises from deciding to confront a frightening situation was i like bdsm by many practitioners as the source of their catharsis. Tiziano and I spoke in a lush Victorian-style parlor that soon filled with elegantly dressed men and women. They were here as spectators for a shoot, but many were eager to talk about the role that BDSM had played in their own lives.

In a scenario reminiscent of exposure therapy, she would place herself in controlled scenes deed to trigger her panic attacks so that she could confront them. The petite brunette reminisced about being tied up, slapped in the face, and crammed into a small box. It helped me realize that I am not my thoughts. As Rogers admits, his first patient was himself. That part of me that I was always so ashamed of turned out to be a really funny thing about me. I learned that people will still love me, and now I have that visceral experience as proof.

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Rogers described another case in which he and Thole were able to transform the psychological into the visceral. She put me in a gimp mask and made me crawl across the floor. She transformed me into a i like bdsm of her sadness and frustration over her relationship.

She made me into the guy that she had been having problems with. It was a catharsis that allowed her to move beyond her passivity in that relationship. Thole offered a further example of a computer programmer who had always felt undeserving of love. He had to believe that he deserved it.

Finally, Leslie started throwing ice at him. All of a sudden this total badass came out. He had been in therapy before, and had had a similar revelation about his deservingness, but it only really connected when he was able to feel it in his body.

The power of the visceral experience in psychology has primarily been studied in a negative sense—as in conditions like Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. There is growing evidence however, for the reverse as well.

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In the growing field of psychedelic therapy for example, scientists from around the world are inducing mystical states and intense visceral experiences capable of producing lasting cures for conditions as diverse as anxietydepressionand PTSD itself. Back in the cabin, before our first session began, I sat with Rogers and Thole to set intentions and boundaries. As always, there was to be no sexual contact. We discussed potential health issues and physical limitations. I ed a legal waiver. The couple brought up the concept of safewords. We participated in a series of scenes, comprising every imaginable combination of power dynamics.

I beat the two of them. They beat me. We hurled abuse and crushed bananas at one another in turn. In between every scene, we sat as our civilized selves again and discussed what it had all meant. Rogers has two main dominant personas. The one with the bulging eyes was The Demon—pure psychotic rage. That first night however, I was being stared down by the slit-eyed one, the one Rogers later called his Clint Eastwood. I crossed my arms and attempted to glare back.

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